It’s not “YOU”. You know that, right?
I’ve been in business for myself, and/or in some sort of sales or recruiting for over 15 years now. I have cultivated friends and relationships around the world. Remember this: Whether it is a new client or a new friend, you cannot say the wrong thing to the right person ~ and you cannot say the right thing to the wrong person.
It doesn’t matter if you are trying to make a sale, recruit a volunteer host family or even get a date … the only way to mess it up is to not say anything at all. Just Ask!
Some folks will be your people and some folks will NOT be your people. Some belong in your tribe, some do not. It’s never personal. Really, it’s not. It boils down to whatever frequency people are living on. One is not better than; or less than, another. They are just different.
Now it may sound like hocus pocus hogwash hooey to you, but think of life like this. We are all basically an energy frequency. Some vibrations match and some do not. Let’s say you are a “square peg” and you are trying to fit into a “round hole.” You can’t fit a square peg into a round hole. That is not a match. Such is the same if you are expending your energy into activities that do not align with your core values.
Have you ever absolutely been crushing on someone and they did not return your interest? Ever been disappointed because you thought you and someone hit it off and would be great friends, and they disappear, or blow you off? Remember my dear – you can be the best, sweetest peach of all the peaches, but that person of interest might prefer oranges. It’s not you, it’s just not a match. No biggie. It’s never personal.
Sometimes your success is dependent more on courage than anything else, but maybe courage is just your level of understanding. After all — there is no real danger in asking, but we get so scared of failing like there is some sort of danger in being rejected. Edison had to disqualify 10,000 ways it didn’t work first, before he got it right.
So what are you doing right now? Are you spinning your wheels, making progress, falling backwards or what? What holds you back? What makes you stagnant? What scares you half to death? If you don’t know the answers to those questions, you should. Ask yourself these things. Seriously, just ask.
As always, make champion choices,
The Healthy Habit Lady
And sometimes people WANT to be there, like you, desire to invest in you, but their life is not in a place where they can do so. This also should not be taken personally. It’s simply not the right time.
Truth on a platter my friend.