Posts Tagged With: #SED

Eyes On Your Own Plate

Something people have heard me say often is … Eyes on your own plate; you are not the food police. Now; granted I may be more sensitive than others on this topic due to my selective eating disorder and such … but I still stand by the sentiment wholeheartedly. What is healthy for me, could be toxic for you ~ and vice versa.

It used to drive me crazy when people would look at my plate at restaurants, or Church pot lucks, or holiday dinners …and say “oh honey is that ALL you’re going to eat” …. ugh! Or worse; when they try to add to my plate … oh hell no, don’t even try that. You worry about your body’s fuel, and I will worry about mine. Period.

The bottom line is this: who are you to judge what someone else is eating, unless possibly it is your child. Yet then it is not so much judging as parenting. At any rate; even if someone is piling up their plate with sweets and treats and fat-laden selections; that is THEIR business. It is quite likely that you do not know their story.

Now — if someone asks my advice, then they have opened a line of communication and conversation. Even still though, I will ask questions, not judge, and try to understand their needs, struggles, goals, etc. If you happen to be someone who is seeking nutritional counsel or personal training, let me know.

As always, make champion choices,
The Healthy Habit Lady

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Your perception is not my reality.  And my perception, is not yours.  Somewhere in between, usually shall lie the truth. With that in mind, let me tell you a story.

Once upon a time, many moons and meals ago … back when I was severely overweight … I went to an outdoor party. It was a cookout of sorts.  I was very self-conscious.  It was summer, very hot, and I hated wearing summer clothes anyway. I was stressing out about what to wear.  On top of that, there is the whole SED thing … and I was freaking out about what would be available that I could eat (or give the illusion of eating).  Even if they made hamburgers, and I could eat it plain … I was worried about whether or not the hosts would season or marinate their meat, and if they did, it would be a no-go for me.  Also – the smells – the myriad of horrible aromas that would radiate the place from all of the condiments, salads, and such … I always dreaded the smells of such events. I was just glad it was outdoors.  The good news is that I am perky, outgoing and usually could blow off such stress and anxiety with humor or sarcasm … and enjoy the people, rather than the food. I always, always ate beforehand when attending such activities.   But I tell you all of this to set the stage for my mindset. On the outside, I’m happy-go-lucky and enthusiastic and the life of the party. On the inside, I’m freaking out about how I look and the food issues.

So, after a lot of walking around and small talk, I find a chair to call my own. Time to relax. I plant my big butt in the chair and it collapses … and I tumble to the ground.  It was literally as if I had squashed the chair like a bug and now Deb is sprawled out on the patio. Can we say ‘humiliated’?  I was mortified.  I was absolutely convinced, in my mind, that the chair broke because I was too heavy. I immediately concluded that I obliterated the chair with my massive girth.

Now, just as I am about to laugh it off with some random awkward dose of sarcasm… a little old lady points out a part of the chair that was clearly already broken.  She literally offers me a hand to help me up and makes a funny remark about how I had the misfortune to pick the broken chair in which to rest my bum.  MY perception was that I broke the chair with my butt — yet that was most definitely NOT her perception at all.

So maybe keep my silly story in mind the next time you’re about to jump to conclusions, even about yourself.  Remember your perceptions shape your reality.  How do you see yourself?  How do you see the world?  Do you like what you see? If not, go change it.  Carry on.

Photo Credit: Nicole Frehsee

Photo Credit: Nicole Frehsee

As always, make champion choices,
The Healthy Habit Lady

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SED – Always Lurking

People ask me all of the time – so are you cured from your SED?  Heck no.  I highly doubt I will ever actually be ‘cured’.  However; I manage.  I improvise and improve.  This is about the best I can do.  Sometimes I go along, feeling great, and almost maybe kinda sort possibly forget about the whole SED thing … and then BAMMO WAMMO it will hit me in the face!  Yep, still there.

I noticed a few days ago that a fast food restaurant named Schlotsky’s sells soup.  I rarely go there, so I did not know this.  Upon further review, I realized they sell New England Clam Chowder.  Woo Hoo.  I like this kind of soup.  Of course; being the picky sort of gal that I am; I am very particular about where I get this kind of soup.  So far; the only place I have ever eaten it at in public is at Red Lobster or from Whole Foods.   So now that I had this knowledge that this fast food restaurant, which is very close to me, sells a soup I like, I wanted to try and eat some.

It took a few days to get up the courage, but I finally decided today was the day.  I ordered one cup WITHOUT toppings.  I was very clear about that.  It came in a little brown bag.  I get home; and it had toppings.  It was like the wind in my sails, just gone.  All enthusiasm for trying something new, just GONE.  So, now after gathering up bravery to try something new, I have to gather up even MORE stamina to determine if I am going to attempt to eat this stuff and modify it to my preference.

Okay, I dive in.   It was blah.  It was not fabulous.  Then I did something daunting. I looked up the nutritional information on the internet.  OH my word. Here is the breakdown: Holy Cow: 1 cup of soup: 1110 calories, 32 grams fat, 16 grams of saturated fat, 980 mg sodium, 143 carbs, 118 grams sugars, 93 grams protein. So maybe in those days I was gathering up courage to try a new dish, I should have looked up this info BEFORE I paid for it 🙂  OH well.  So do you think I will be making this a habit?  Soup from Schlotsky’s I mean?  Nope. Not at all.   But at least now I know it’s an option (maybe).

Meanwhile, in other news for the picky vegetable haters out there … I read an interesting blog post.  I like a LOT of the tips in here.   Of course I am reading it through my SED lenses of life, and even still, I believe the tips are solid! Some of the links to recipes are great. Therefore, I recommend giving it a peek if you care to do such.

As for storing vegetables and such, this is another great website.  If you ever wondered how long your favorite food or beverage will stay tasty, this is a good link for saving:

And if you’ve read this far and you are wondering what in the world is SED … well, here ya go … a video where I talk about it:

If you don’t want to watch a video, here is a link to picky eating vs selective eating disorder (SED) … it actually describes me very well …

Well there ya have it folks – -Spring is in bloom over here, and SED is in full bloom 24/7 😉 But that is okay – knowledge is power, and knowing what I have and what I’m dealing with is half the battle.  The other half is doing something about that.  With God, I am fully equipped.

Moral of the story?   Know your issues so you know what you’re fighting, and if you’re going to eat at Schlotsky’s then I highly suggest looking at the nutrition information before braving that adventure.


As always, make champion choices,
The Healthy Habit Lady

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I Was Interviewed (and on video)

aaaaackk…. she wants to video tape me talking about my eating disorder and losing weight ….. oh dear …

Well, those thoughts only lasted about two seconds; because after all, I’ve been talking about this obesity and problem called Selective Eating Disorder {SED} for quite some time.  I have made myself kind of public, and posted pictures and blogs and spoke candidly about my issues.  Why not do it on video?  No reason not to do that.  Except maybe that I hate my voice, but yeah, it’s the only one I have, so I’m not going to worry about THAT.  🙂

So, my very good friend – who is also a Certified Personal Trainer and Health Coach (Nancy Anne Martin), did an interview with me about being an extremely picky eater and losing over 180 pounds. We did this video in her kitchen. The video is kind of long, and they even cut stuff out, lol … but if you’re interested in my story at all –or this kind of thing , here is the YouTube video link.

And while you’re checking out this video, go ahead and check out Nancy Anne’s videos on cooking and recipes.  She runs a group called [Better Body] and it is fabulous.  It is a no-sales, no-gimmick group for support, encouragement, motivation and accountability.  The link for her Facebook group is: and the link to her YouTube channel for awesome cooking tips is this:

Me and Nancy Anne

Myself and Nancy Anne

As always, make champion choices,
The Healthy Habit Lady 

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I Danced Up a Mountain in Cape Town

Well folks, it was a two-shower kind of day!  I survived my second BodyPump class today at the gym, with my friend Ashley.  I liked this instructor MUCH better.  I’m not sure if it was partially because I was in front of the room and I could hear the instructions better, or what .. but I really appreciated her style and motivation.  Apparently she is a favorite of many.

After the class ended, we decided to sneak in 20 minutes on the dreadmill so I chose the ‘Hike Cape Town, South Africa’ map video, and I’m pretty sure it was trying to kill me.  It bumped up my elevation to 12.5 … and so to make my jelly legs work properly I had to utilize my iPhone playlists of Christian music and started bee-boppin’ to Carman (circa 1980 probably).  I was a dancing fool on that thing, and of course Ashley took a pic.  This is me being brave and posting it on the internet, as-is, side-view.  I must be crazy.


Dancing on the treadmill

And in other news, I’ve tried a few new things lately (other than gym classes). For someone with SED like me, this is huge. I tried a new Special-K Protein Cereal.  It was blah.  Seriously blah.  It was not impressive in the least, and very bland.  I did not even finish the stuff, I probably could have if I really needed to, but I did not.  And for someone like ME to say it is bland, you know it must be bad.  

I also tried a meal replacement Wildberry Smoothie at the gym called Energy Rush or something like that.  I drank it before my workout last Thursday as well as this morning.  Both times I was pleased and will likely order it again.   Funny thing is, my boys liked that smoothie too and they kept stealing sips.


My son with my smoothie

You know what else I tried new? Walnuts!  Well, I had tried them one time before and I did not like them at all.  I introduced all kinds of nuts into my diet a couple of years ago, but could not really get into walnuts at all.  So I decided to give them another try.  Nope.  Still hate them.  Oh well.

Tomorrow’s Adventure?  Yoga.  Ugh, yoga.  Yep, Yoga.  I totally stink at yoga, and I have no coordination or balance whatsoever, but my medical massage therapist told me to try yoga, so I shall do just that.  Thank goodness my friend Mallory is going with.  I need the accountability.  So maybe tomorrow I’ll blog about my downward dog … or perhaps I’ll write about my love affair with pecans.

As always, make champion choices,
The Healthy Habit Lady

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