Posts Tagged With: #TheHealthyHabitLady

New Year, Same Me, Better Goals

Taking a break, enjoying the lake

2021… I honestly don’t know if I have anything worthy to add to the chit chat about how difficult 2021 was for so many I love. The tragic and unexpected death of my daughter aside, it was challenging and soul crushing for me on oh so many levels. So, let’s just let me leave that acknowledgment as it is, shall we?

What about 2020? Well, I survived a pandemic amidst my middle son’s two surgeries compounded by many other challenges. I even tried to ‘retire’ #TheHealthyHabitLady blog and social media. Yeah well … that didn’t work out … folks wanted their cheerleader back; and I needed to be back. But there is nothing wrong with breaks, nothing at all.

Anyone remember 2019? That was the year I survived a devastating divorce and dissolved a 26 year marriage, lost my home, was financially obliterated and started all over, with my children, in a small town here in Northeast Texas. I traded in suburbia and city life for 13 acres on a lake. Zero regrets. Then menopause hit me. Oh Joy.

Guess what? I’m still here, I have survived, my heart is still beating and my blessings they do abound. Now I think I’d like a year to THRIVE … and not just survive. Anyone else?

Regardless of tragedies and sucker punches, I have had a few wins! Truly, I have… and I intentionally wrote them down in a journal by Mel Robbins … in my very own messy handwriting … to reflect and remind myself that YES, I AM STILL HERE. I’m still breathing and I do actually still have something to offer to those around me. I still have a voice. I still have something to say. I still have children to raise. I am 52 years young. I am far from done.

It is so important to celebrate your wins, and I hope you take a moment to honor anything that you accomplished in 2021, or even in the last few years. No matter how small .. it does matter. Write out your top 5, maybe it’s just barely a top 3 …. but I double dog dare you to do a little dance! Articulate your gifts and greatness into any flimsy words you can manage to string together. Building on that sense of accomplishment helps you with this next step … which is to plan your 2022! Be present in 2022! Engage in 2022!

Now I will whisper in your ear … drown out the distracting noises. If only for a moment, ignore the dog barkin’ and listen with intent. Here’s the question: Have you set any goals for this year? Not resolutions. GOALS?! Do you use a journal or a planner? I’d love to hear about your tools.

Now comes the most important question: Have you mapped out any strategies and action steps needed to accomplish desired goals? My brutal truth is this: YES, I have started ~~but I haven’t finished. My brain is still churning, my gears are still turning. Yes, Ms. Deb is still crafting and prioritizing, but I’m doing it ~ nonetheless.

My emotional bandwidth and mental energy are growing stronger, so let me hear from ya! How can we be here for each other throughout this year? Who can YOU reach out to this week; whether to ask for help or offer encouragement? Who can you check on and remind them that – yes – they matter? Who can you impress, even if it is just yourself? Who can you shock the hell out of this month? Now go on, get busy.

As for me and my mirror, we are good pals. Come tomorrow morning, when I see the rising woman whom I will greet with a ‘good morning‘ … when I see her in that gloriously flawed yet marvelous reflection … that woman will get a High 5! She deserves it, and so do you, my friend, so do you.

As always, make champion choices,
The Healthy Habit Lady

Buying a journal is one thing …
and yet OPENING it is quite another 🙂

My Amazon Associate link if you would like to purchase this journal by Mel Robbins:
https://amzn.to/3qRTXQD

I originally discovered Mel Robbins on LinkedIN, this is her page: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melrobbins/

My Amazon Associate link if you would like to purchase the High 5 Audiobook, which I have done, and am presently listening to in my car, on my way to and from work:
https://amzn.to/31ry6H5

The first book I ever read by Mel Robbins was The 5 Second Rule, and I read it on my Kindle, but it is available in other formats. Still a fabulous read or listen, and here is my Amazon Associate link if you’re interested:
https://amzn.to/31pD6vG

Meanwhile, Mel Robbins has a High 5 Crew Group on Facebook, I just joined today:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/high5crew

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Food Rules

I believe in simplicity. Truly. No point in making things complicated ~ when there is no need to complicate them. So in case you were ever wondering; here are my simplified rules for eating. I’m not a big fan of telling people WHAT to eat; I’m not a registered dietician and everyone is so different. However; there are some basics I try to follow, teach my kids, and share with those interested.

  1. If it comes out of the ground or from a tree/vine/plant ~ and doesn’t kill you, you can eat it.
  2. If you cannot pronounce something on a label, try avoid it.
  3. Eat natural fats.
  4. Eat lean protein.
  5. Drink pure water.
  6. Eat when you are hungry….just start with natural fiber. Raw veggies are the best. A good trick is to eat an apple, or celery or a carrot about 10 minutes before you eat your meal. Drinking water before a meal is genius as well.
  7. Choose complex carbs over simple carbs.
  8. When choosing a snack/meal – aim for the perfect trifecta – a combo of good fat/protein/carbs. Carbs are not evil -they just need to be balanced with healthy fats and protein.
  9. Limit sugar … but if you’re going to have it – have the real stuff, not fake stuff.
  10. Eat slowly. Enjoy your food. Allow your brain time to catch up with your digestion.

Well, there ya have it. My simplified take on nutrition. We can call it Deb’s Diet Plan if we want. Or we can call it common sense.

Oh ~ and for the record ~ it’s perfectly fine to eat cake on your birthday! At least I think so, anyway.

As always, make champion choices,
The Healthy Habit Lady

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Eyes On Your Own Plate

Something people have heard me say often is … Eyes on your own plate; you are not the food police. Now; granted I may be more sensitive than others on this topic due to my selective eating disorder and such … but I still stand by the sentiment wholeheartedly. What is healthy for me, could be toxic for you ~ and vice versa.

It used to drive me crazy when people would look at my plate at restaurants, or Church pot lucks, or holiday dinners …and say “oh honey is that ALL you’re going to eat” …. ugh! Or worse; when they try to add to my plate … oh hell no, don’t even try that. You worry about your body’s fuel, and I will worry about mine. Period.

The bottom line is this: who are you to judge what someone else is eating, unless possibly it is your child. Yet then it is not so much judging as parenting. At any rate; even if someone is piling up their plate with sweets and treats and fat-laden selections; that is THEIR business. It is quite likely that you do not know their story.

Now — if someone asks my advice, then they have opened a line of communication and conversation. Even still though, I will ask questions, not judge, and try to understand their needs, struggles, goals, etc. If you happen to be someone who is seeking nutritional counsel or personal training, let me know.

As always, make champion choices,
The Healthy Habit Lady

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An Old Journal

Recently, as I was packing up boxes of books for my upcoming move, I found several of my old handwritten journals.  My teenage son was fascinated to see so many books in my handwriting.  So, just for fun, I picked a random page to read … the picture below is where I landed.   At this time of this entry, I was very overweight and working as a Training Director in Richmond, VA.  ~ in the midst of hiring new staff. Meanwhile; I often wrote about wanting to lose weight and changing my habits or how I simply MUST exercise.  I would get motivated, but it was fleeting.  I would start and stop, over and over again.  I often became paralyzed by analysis paralysis in my overly eager desire to plan every detail, to ‘get ready’ to make a change.   Yet change never happened, and if it did, it did not last.  Simply put, I failed dozens of ways before I ever achieved success in weight loss.

So what changed?  My mindset.  My focus.  Instead of trying to change my whole life on the proverbial ‘Monday’ that never comes, I focused on just changing one bad habit, just one thing.  Once I replaced a bad habit with a better habit, I moved on to the next challenge.  The very first thing I did was give up Mt. Dew because I was drinking it like water and I knew it was terrible for my body.   I didn’t worry about my nutrition or my exercise routine, counting calories or any of that, I just focused on giving up Mt. Dew and drinking water.

I often tell people I lost 175 pounds 5 pounds at a time.  Seriously, I only focused on five pound goals.  Now I am in maintenance mode and have been for over five years.  Are my habits perfect?  Of course not.  Do I have room for improvement?  Always.  Do I have saggy skin and stretch marks in places?  I’d be lying if I said I didn’t.   To God be the glory for this marvelous mess of a temple that I enjoy.

Now while I’ve been a bit stressed and in transition, preparing for the move and selling my home, shifting my career, etc. ~ I think it is important to recognize when the good Lord sends us love notes of light.  Even when those notes are in your very own handwriting.

As always, make champion choices,
The Healthy Habit Lady

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Comfort

I created a photography challenge for myself, and a few friends are participating.  Today’s category is ‘comfort’.  Taking a picture for this challenge inspired a whole domino effect chain reaction type sequence of thoughts, which ran me down a rabbit hole.  Surely you have had similar happen to you at some point.

My first thought was, menopause is a bully.  I realize I am getting off easy in many respects of menopause, but nonetheless I do not enjoy hot flashes.  Not even a little bit.  As I searched my brain for inspiration to take a picture of ‘comfort’, I landed on the idea of a fan.  My mind was spinning about creativity and photography but my body was screaming ‘go jump in ice’.  Not really; but you get the vivid idea.  SO I played around with my phone and selfies, with a fan, and the picture below is my result.  You may not even be able to tell it is a fan in the photo; but it is and it was turned on.  I was allowing myself a momentary pause from my tasks to cool off and feel some comfort.

Now back to the rabbit hole. Comfort is an amazing thing.  Everybody likes to be comfortable, yes?  I do enjoy air conditioning, no lie.  I enjoy indoor plumbing as well. We all have modern day comforts that make our lifestyles more pleasant.   Some things we could live without, some would perhaps present a hardship.   Right now, my dryer is broken.  This is NOT fun.  However; it has caused me to get out of my routine and as I’ve done that, growth has occurred.

My point is this.  I know it sounds cliche, but life exists outside of your comfort zone.  There is no growth in your comfort zone.  I often tell my kids that they are not entitled to be comfortable 100% of the time.   I usually find myself spouting off those words as they are fighting over the A/C vents in the minivan.

I dare you to get uncomfortable.   Do something different.  If you are sleepwalking through life, stop that.  Wake up.  Shake things up.  Just imagine all of the amazing growth, lessons and rude awakenings that exist outside your cozy space.

As always, make champion choices,
The Healthy Habit Lady

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