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An Old Journal

Recently, as I was packing up boxes of books for my upcoming move, I found several of my old handwritten journals.  My teenage son was fascinated to see so many books in my handwriting.  So, just for fun, I picked a random page to read … the picture below is where I landed.   At this time of this entry, I was very overweight and working as a Training Director in Richmond, VA.  ~ in the midst of hiring new staff. Meanwhile; I often wrote about wanting to lose weight and changing my habits or how I simply MUST exercise.  I would get motivated, but it was fleeting.  I would start and stop, over and over again.  I often became paralyzed by analysis paralysis in my overly eager desire to plan every detail, to ‘get ready’ to make a change.   Yet change never happened, and if it did, it did not last.  Simply put, I failed dozens of ways before I ever achieved success in weight loss.

So what changed?  My mindset.  My focus.  Instead of trying to change my whole life on the proverbial ‘Monday’ that never comes, I focused on just changing one bad habit, just one thing.  Once I replaced a bad habit with a better habit, I moved on to the next challenge.  The very first thing I did was give up Mt. Dew because I was drinking it like water and I knew it was terrible for my body.   I didn’t worry about my nutrition or my exercise routine, counting calories or any of that, I just focused on giving up Mt. Dew and drinking water.

I often tell people I lost 175 pounds 5 pounds at a time.  Seriously, I only focused on five pound goals.  Now I am in maintenance mode and have been for over five years.  Are my habits perfect?  Of course not.  Do I have room for improvement?  Always.  Do I have saggy skin and stretch marks in places?  I’d be lying if I said I didn’t.   To God be the glory for this marvelous mess of a temple that I enjoy.

Now while I’ve been a bit stressed and in transition, preparing for the move and selling my home, shifting my career, etc. ~ I think it is important to recognize when the good Lord sends us love notes of light.  Even when those notes are in your very own handwriting.

As always, make champion choices,
The Healthy Habit Lady



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Tis the Season


No, it’s not Christmas.  I’m not even ready for Halloween.  But for everything, there is a season.  There is even a Bible verse about that. Some things are temporary; some are lifelong; some are recurring.  We have seasons of the year, seasons of parenting, seasons of life … and of course … seasons of your journey.

What journey are you on?  Do you know? What journey are you reaching for or hoping to start?  Do you have a plan?  Maybe you’re just getting started or maybe you’re in the home stretch. Maybe you’re frozen with analysis paralysis and stuck. It doesn’t matter.  Keep this in mind … what you do in one season is not necessarily the same thing you will need to do for the other seasons.  Let that sink in a bit.

Do you wear snow boots to the beach?  Do you wear a swimsuit while raking leaves? Probably not. Although it may be entertaining.  Right now, I am in a ‘maintenance’ season of my weight loss journey.  Some would say it is over, since I am a normal weight. However; it is never over.  It is a lifestyle. It is a huge compilation of a thousand habits. What I need to do for maintaining my weight is NOT the same as when I was losing. Even when I was losing, the beginning was different from the middle.

Remember:  If nothing changes, nothing changes.  I say this all of the time.  It is true though.  If you keep doing the same exercises, eating exactly the same thing, same nutrient ratios, etc. ~ you may get stuck.  The dreaded plateau.  Or heck, you may even gain.  It happens to everyone. Trust me on that.  It’s fine.  It’s normal.  It’s a season. Just. Keep. Going!  Adjust and modify as needed.  Or like Dory says, just keep swimming !

You know what else?  It’s okay to have a favorite season or not-so-favorite season. Some people love the baby stage of parenting with diapers and bottles and what not.  Some people hate that.  Some people loathe the teenage years, and some people thrive on such. Here’s the fabulous part of all of this… seasons change.

What season are you in right now?  I would love to hear your thoughts.

As always, make champion choices,
The Healthy Habit Lady





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My Brains Are At War

According to some random internet quiz, I am 34% left brain and 66% right brain.  I have taken these types of things before, and the answers are usually similar, that I am pretty much right-brain dominant.  If you care about Meyers Brigg personality typing, I am ENFP.  (Extrovert, Intuition, Feeling and Perceiving) … or something like that.  If you like Astrology, I am a Leo.

More importantly, I am human and I am female.  These two facts will never change and cannot be disputed, at least I hope not.  Now because I am a female human, I can attach emotions to scientific data, when really – there is no need to do such.

Case in point?  The scale.  When we step on a scale to see how much we weigh, it is simply data.  It is a number.  It has to do with gravity.  It is ONE piece of information that tells us about our overall health.  Just one piece.  And it’s a small piece at that.

My scale keeps telling me the same data every day, for like two weeks now.  Really?  No change? Ugh says the frustrated female.  Why isn’t it moving? Not up, not down?  Well let’s at least be happy it is not UP after all, right?  My logical brain knows that this is just a number and it is no reason to be upset.  My emotional brain screams ‘waaaaahhhh’.  These two lovely brains are at war over stupid data from a tiny little piece of equipment that lives in my bathroom.

Some folks will go to extremes and say ‘ditch the scale’ or throw it away and never look at the thing. For me personally, that is not the answer.  I like to monitor things.  I’d rather notice a small change that needs attention, as opposed to being shocked by a big change.  

It should go without saying, but we also need to measure our bodies, you know, with a measuring tape.  Those things do still exist, I promise.  You also need to be checked by your doctor, and let them steal your blood.  What is your cholesterol?  What is your blood sugar?  What is your thyroid doing?  You should know what your normal blood pressure reading is, and what is your resting pulse rate.  Okay, mama is done preaching now.

But alas I got a little whiney this morning when, yet again, no change in the scale.  However, and this is the real point .. my pants are loose.  I just bought these size 12 jeans, and they are loose. I’ve also been lifting weights regularly … and this is part of the picture as well.  A million factors are part of the puzzle, and thus I’m just going to keep doing what I’m doing.

Tomorrow’s agenda?  BodyAttack at the gym.  I’m trying a new class with friends at high noon. I’m quite excited about this.  ALL of my brain is excited about this 🙂 

As always, make champion choices,
The Healthy Habit Lady

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How Can a Picky Eater Lose Weight?

First, let’s understand that I am well beyond what most would consider picky eating. I was born this way, no childhood trauma or anything. I had awesome parents. I suffer from something called ‘SED’ which is Selective Eating Disorder. The fear and anxiety that goes into trying new foods can be overwhelming for folks with SED. I am also a supertaster.  I notice things and taste things to a much more extreme than most people.  If it is bitter to you, it is three times more bitter for me.  If you are not familiar with SED or Supertaster, google these terms. There is tons of information. I just wish there had been more data on it when I was a child … I would not have felt like such a freak for so many years. Feeling like a freak led to low self esteem which led to poor lifestyle choices. I won’t even go into all of THAT right now.

I use to lie about it, hide it, make excuses, etc. I had a million tricks to deal with or avoid social situations where I knew eating someone else’s food would be a problem, or going to a new restaurant, etc. It definitely made dating interesting when I was a young woman. I hated sleep away summer camps.

My husband and I did not become parents, until about 9 years into being married. So our habits of being D.I.N.K.S. (Double Income No Kids) … led to a lot of eating out, a lot of movie popcorn with tons of butter … and not a lot of cooking. Heck, I had those habits BEFORE we got married. I pretty much ate out every meal, at fast food or a restaurant, from about age 14, when I began working and making my own money.  I wasn’t on my own at 14, but I pretty much quit eating at home around that time.  And if I was pressed for money, as I often was in the early years of adulthood, when I really WAS on my own, I would just eat a big bag of chips because it was cheap and would satisfy physical hunger. As you can imagine, these horrid habits led to severe obesity, where I topped out at 325 pounds, standing only 5’4″ tall. And the soda, oh good grief the soda, I probably drank 6 or 7 bottles of Mt. Dew a day, no exaggeration.

Honestly, I had no interest in making changes or losing weight until I became a parent. I’m not saying you have to be a parent to be motivated enough to change, but for ME, that was the thing … everybody has their own thing. My kid wanted me to swing on a swing and my 325 pound butt would not even fit into the swing, and it was humiliating. I wanted to be an active mom, around for a long time, and I knew I was morbidly obese. The only way I could tackle the obesity (for me) was to tackle the relationship with food. Longevity is my main motivation. I now have four kids. I had my last child at nearly 39 years of age. I really want to live a long time to see grandchildren etc. I still struggle. I had to force myself to learn to cook. But I’m light years beyond where I was.

How do I get up the courage to try something new when it terrifies me? Education, honestly, is the key. I decided to educate myself on how my body works, how nutrition affects the body, etc. Armed with logical and rational data, I brace myself for the anxiety and gather up the courage.  I will go through periods where I can try new things, and then I will take a break, because it’s exhausting.  I use to do all this privately; but now I talk about it, and make public blogs on the topic, in case there is someone else out there like me, who struggles, and thinks it is all impossible.

Now backing up a bit; since I pretty much became responsible for my own food at age 14 …it was pure freedom to me. I loved it.  But with freedom, comes consequences.  While I was making all of my own choices regarding food, I was making terrible choices.  In every other area of my life I was very driven, did well in school, worked hard, responsible, very active. I only had one sibling and he was gone from our house by the time I was a teenager, so I think my parents just enjoyed the ability to have meals just the two of them and not stress about me. I remember my Dad cooked on weekends; but I loved what he made, pancakes and bacon, so I guess we had that one weekly family time together, every Saturday or Sunday morning.

People ask me if I think I still have SED since I’ve made progress.  The answer is YES.  I definitely still consider myself SED. I still have struggles sometimes in social settings. I recently went on a two week road trip, alone with 4 kids, staying with family and in hotels. I was quite inconvenienced by my SED a few times, especially regarding my need for ice. I also recently spent four days at Family Church Beach Camp where they provided all of the meals. I hate that. I could only eat about half of what was offered and the rest of the time I was digging into my own stash, but there were no microwaves and no refrigerators which made it much harder to improvise. I still hate vegetables, so I have to get them into me via smoothies or juice. I still love carbs way too much so I have to monitor myself for weight purposes.
Now for those who do not know this; my mom died when I was 17, right before I graduated high school.  It was a major unexpected blow and shock.  I got a job and moved out and thus began a career-driven young adulthood where I was on my own and ate out every single meal. I ate fast food mostly. Then the weight started piling on.
So people want to know about my ‘process’.  How to get from there to here, in a nutshell.  I’m not sure how to describe the ‘process’, except that I had a rude awakening of being a parent, being over 300 pounds, and not wanting my children to grow up without a mother if I died young!  I had high blood pressure and high cholesterol.   Now, given that my own mom died of heart disease when she was only 45, I just had a reality check of sorts and a very blunt doctor who got me moving, literally. I just started with water exercises. I didn’t worry about food at first, just moving more. Then slowly I decided to replace one bad thing with one good thing, just one at a time. I had started and failed so many dang diets it was ridiculous, and they would always fail because of SED of course. No weight loss diet exists to account for SED, not really. I may make one up, maybe it would be a best seller – but everyone is so different, it’s hard to tell someone else how to do this.
It takes me a long time to get the courage to try something new, it is uncomfortable and I hate throwing up, but I just brace myself for it, do it in the comfort of my own home usually, and just DO IT. I have added several things to my diet this way, but also there are several things that just will never be on my menu, like tomatoes or broccoli or asparagus. I can’t even stand the smell. So the process I guess is setting your mind right, being educated and then knowing you will be uncomfortable and things will be unpleasant, but also knowing it doesn’t last and it won’t kill you!  So I gather up the energy and strength and aim for progress, not perfection. I recently ate eggs at a restaurant for the first time.  That was HUGE.  I only added eggs into my diet in the last few years, but I only ate them at home where I knew exactly what was in them and how they were prepared.  It was liberating to be able to order eggs.  I was very nervous about it, but it went well.  It’s the little things like that which give me courage, motivation and hope.  I still have disastrous fails as well, believe me.  I ordered roasted chicken at a restaurant where they swore it was NOT spicy.  Well, their definition of spicy and mine are completely different.  I could not eat the thing.
So with all glory and praise going to God for his Grace and mighty help and intervention in all of this, I open myself up with complete transparency and encourage you to do the THING that makes you uncomfortable.  Whatever that may be.  Face your fears.  You cannot fix what you will not face. So face it, head on, tummy in a whirlwind and nerves on edge … face what you need to face and get yourself uncomfortable.  Lace up those shoes, put one foot in front of the other, take one step at a time, and get going.  I dare ya.
As always, make champion choices,
The Healthy Habit Lady
July 23, 2014
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The Secret Sauce

You know you get to negotiate the results you receive, right?  The negotiation comes in form of the choices that you make.  Sometimes we negotiate with our own demons to go or NOT go do something we know we should be doing, lol.  You know you’ve done it.  Stop negotiating with demons and START negotiating with your results.
You do have 100% freedom to choose your choices, but with that freedom, you must remember that the consequences which follow are your own responsibility. You choose this and you will get that. Period. So, stop letting other’s opinions and their personal journey affect the decisions you make. Betty Boop jumped on Paleo, so you will do this as well.  Sally Sue got results doing crossfit, so you should join as soon as possible. Here’s the deal, it is your life (your results). You must do what makes sense for you … and your body … and your life.
The life you dream of comes with …”this is what you have to do to get that” … so quit telling lies to yourself. Quit jumping on every band wagon that seems to be a magic secret.  The secret is in the sauce people.  And the sauce is your own stuff, that stuff that makes you YOU.
Dreams are your own. Be true to yourself.  This photo is of me in my happy place (OUTSIDE). I love hills and I love hiking and I love enjoying God’s creation.  It was about 100 degrees that day, so forgive the hat and sunglasses 🙂

As always, make champion choices,
The Healthy Habit Lady
April 24, 2014
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